Performing conventional masculinity comes with a price, and often that price is death

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Content Warning: this article discusses mental health issues and suicidal ideation.

I understand why the term “toxic masculinity” is useful, and I find myself using it frequently as well. However, sometimes the word “toxic” feels inadequate and the word “deadly” seems more fitting; I believe that if the prevailing ideal of masculinity (traditional, American masculinity in particular) was not as tough, stoic, and unattainable as it is, many lives could be saved.

We present boys and young men with masculine ideals that…

Instead, we should strive to make hookup culture less damaging for women and everyone else

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Note: I recognize that categorizations like race, gender, and sexuality affect people’s experiences of hookup culture. Most studies on hookup culture focus on heterosexual relationships, and some scholars (E.g., Glenn and Marquardt) have used a strictly heteronormative definition for the term and defined a “hookup” as a physical encounter between a man and a woman. By writing about hookup culture in this article, I am referring specifically to heterosexual hookup culture. However, I acknowledge that “hooking up” is by no means something that only heterosexual, cisgender people do.

In her landmark study Hooking Up: Sex, Dating, and Relationships on Campus

We need men as allies, but we also need to be wary of those who appropriate feminist rhetoric for purely selfish purposes

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In her essay “The Cult of the Difficult Woman,” Jia Tolentino writes about the mainstream feminist tendency to praise controversy-generating female celebrities and portray them as empowering feminist icons who can do no wrong.¹ She argues that “the bar is uniquely low with Kim Kardashian…Kim has benefited from the feminist tendency to frame female courage as maximally subversive, when, just as often, it’s minimally so.”² …

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